People say all the time to let go of the toxic people in your life; the people who hold you back and who make you feel worthless. Those people aren’t wrong, but I think that they are missing part of the equation.
Some people have terrible relationships with family, but it’s hard to let go of family because we’ve built society around family units being of the utmost importance. When there’s no where else to turn, there’s supposed to be family and when there’s not, it can be very heartbreaking.
The point i’m trying to make is you can’t force a relationship and you can’t force someone to see a perspective that they aren’t willing to see, which is awful sometimes but it’s normal and it’s okay.
You can put space in your relationships with people when things get to be too much, and if down the road those people want to reconcile, you should try and be open to it.
If it doesn’t work and it’s still negative, fine. They aren’t worth your time, energy, or health.
But people do change, they grow and they learn from their mistakes. Forgiveness is key.
So don’t bring that unnecessary toxicity into your life, but always be the bigger person. If the wounds have healed enough, give them the benefit of the doubt. Try again, but don’t push, just let it happen.
It’ll work out for the best in the end.
It always does.
Lexi Scribbles 